In the past few months, I had been seeing a therapist to assist me wrapping my head around some recent anxiety issues, and she said something that hit me like a two-ton truck.
She told me, “Setting goals and achieving them is not self-improvement. It’s self-care.”
At first, hearing that felt like one of those tasty self-help quotes that are fun to mentally chew on. But within a few seconds, I realized the sheer gravity of what she was saying.
(By the way, this is just one of many reasons why I highly recommend seeking professional help for any mental health or emotional well-being issues. They really can help!)
There’s a paradox to the entirety of the self-improvement concept. When you seek to “self-improve,” there is an implication that something about you is not good enough, or you need to become better somehow in order to become “good enough.”
The contradiction here is that while you want to become better, you are simultaneously stating that there is something not right with you or not whole about you.
It’s the same with losing weight. You do not need to lose weight to improve yourself or become a better version of yourself. You are choosing to lose weight because you want to take care of yourself and your body.
You are simply providing yourself with a greater level of care and support. That’s all it is.
It’s so easy to be unhappy with your weight and then come to 1,000 different opinions about yourself because of it. Some people think that being overweight means that they are not attractive, not worthy, not disciplined, not in control, not healthy, not deserving of happiness.
Those are definitely some of the (many) things I felt about myself when I spent years being over 400 pounds.
So people who inadvertently hold these negative beliefs about themselves end up seeking to “improve” themselves with losing weight, believing that somehow dropping the extra pounds will upgrade them as a person.
That’s where the mistake lies – in the belief that their weight has anything to do with their worth and value as a person.
If you are someone who feels bad about the extra pounds, consider exploring more body-positive outlooks that can help you realize your true greatness (regardless of how much you weigh or how you look). It’s one of the many important topics we cover in our community.
When you decide to lose weight or get healthy, please understand deep inside yourself that you are not improving yourself. Because there is nothing that needs to improve. You are amazing and valuable exactly as you are.
The distinction here seems small, but the implications are massive.
Instead, understand that you are simply deciding to take care of a wonderful, beautiful person: You.
Losing weight is just a form of self-care. It has nothing to do with your worth, with your state of excellence, or with your value as a human being.
Share this image on your social media to show others that you understand your own greatness, and that losing weight is another way to take care of yourself.
And if you do want to take more care of yourself and your body, you are invited to a free course I made to show meat eaters how to get started on losing 30 pounds or more called Keto Made Easy. This is your opportunity to take the first step into better self-care by learning the crucial secrets of how to drop huge pounds by eating delicious fatty foods through keto.
Cale is the founder of Comfy Weight Loss, a cool little online community where he shows people how he lost 170 pounds in 11 months by eating delicious, fatty foods through a focused keto diet. It turns out that changing your life can be comfortable and enjoyable. To learn more or begin your own happy weight-loss journey, go to ComfyWeightLoss.com